Tuesday, May 20, 2025

The Bitterness of the Marror – and the Bitterness of Tisha B’Av (Adapted from the Hakdomo to Sefer Shev Shmaitso, Os Shin)

 The Bitterness of the Marror – and the Bitterness of Tisha B’Av (Adapted from the Hakdomo to Sefer Shev Shmaitso, Os Shin)

By Eliakim Willner

Eliakim Willner is author of a newly released volume of select Pachad Yitzchok Maamorim, in English with commentary, and of “Nesivos Olam – Nesiv HaTorah: An Appreciation of Torah Study”, a translation with commentary of a work by the Maharal of Prague, both published by Artscroll/Mesorah. A continuation of the Nesivos Olam series, “Nesivos Olam – Nesiv HaAvodah: The Philosophy and Practice of Prayer” awaits publication, as does “To Be A Jew”, an adaptation with commentary of the Hakdomo to Sefer Shev Shmaitso, from which this article is drawn.

 

A Strange Connection

Chazal make a curious connection between the Seder night and the night of Tisha B’Av. The Shev Shmaitso, in his introduction, explains the relationship between these two apparently disparate occasions.

We begin with the source for this connection in the Medrash Rabbah (Eichah Rabbah 3:5):

“‘He has filled me with bitterness; He has sated me with wormwood’ (Eichah 3:15). With what he filled me with bitterness on the nights of Pesach, per the posuk, ‘they shall eat it with matzo and marror’ (Bamidbar 9:11), he sated me with wormwood on the nights of  Tisha B’Av, the ninth of Av.”

The Medrash is drawing a parallel between the bitter marror of the nights of Pesach and the much more bitter “wormwood-like” experience of the night of Tisha B’Av, when the two Batei Mikdash were destroyed. Tisha B’Av always falls out on the same day of the week as the first day of Pesach, but the connection between the first night of Pesach and Tisha B’Av runs deeper, as the Shev Shmaitso will explain, based on another Medrash in Eichah Rabbah 1:20.

Avrohom’s Argument to Hashem

“On the night of Tisha B’Av our forefather Avrohom entered into the kodesh kodoshim. Hashem “took him by the hand” and strolled with him through its length and breadth, and asked him, ‘What brings you, my cherished one, to My home?’ (Yirmiyahu 11:15) He responded, ‘My Master, where are my children?’ Hashem responded, ‘They sinned and I exiled them among the nations’. Avrohom responded, ‘Were there no righteous among them?’ Hashem responded, ‘…the many perform evil design’ (Yirmiyahu 11:15). Avrohom said, ‘You should have focused on the righteous among them’. Hashem responded, ‘Their many were bad, as the posuk testifies: “…the many perform evil design”’.

Upon close analysis there seems to be something amiss with this dialog. Avrohom asks, “Were there no righteous…”, seeking mercy on the basis of more merit than sin. Hashem responds in a manner implying that in fact that this was not so. Why, then, does Avrohom persist by suggesting, “You should have focused on the righteous”? He was just told that there was no majority of righteous!

Transgression Cancellation

It seems to me that we must understand Avrohom’s argument in light of a concept presented in the Drashos of Rabbi Yehuda Moscato (Nefutzos Yehudah), who has a novel understanding of the principle of judgement being based on the conduct of the majority. He writes that this judgement works through the mechanism of “transgression cancellation”, such that if person A is a murderer, person B, a thief, person C, a bribe-taker, person D, a usurer, etc., the transgression categories “cancel each other out” – meaning that since most people do not fall into each individual category the net result is that no transgression category will have a majority of the population.

Thus, the population can be judged favorably, in this lenient understanding of the concept of judgement being based on the conduct of the majority, even if the net sum of overall transgressions in the population exceeds the net sum of overall mitzva actions.

Another way of viewing this “mitzva-centric” approach is to consider each mitzva individually, asking of each, “are the majority of the population observant of this mitzva?” If the answer is “yes” that counts in the “favorable” column. If the answer is “no”, that counts in the unfavorable column. After all the mitzvos have been processed in this way, the two columns are summed, and positive or, G-d forbid, negative judgement is applied based on the column with the highest value.

Bitul of an Issur with an Issur

This is analogous to the principle expounded in Zevachim 78a that if one combines and eats a mixture of pigul, nosar and tamei he is exempt from penalty. There are various disqualifiers that prohibit the consumption of meat from a korban. The three mentioned here are pigul, which is meat from a korban offered with improper intent, nosar, which is meat from a korban whose time limit for consumption has expired, and tamei, which is meat from a korban that was rendered ritually impure by contact with a person or object that was itself impure. Penalties are imposed on those who violate these prohibitions by eating a minimum olive-sized piece of any of those meats.

The reason for the exemption of penalty is the principle of bitul, annulment. If a prohibited substance is mixed with a larger amount of a different substance, the prohibited substance is nullified. Here, all three substances are prohibited, but the prohibitions are different, and with respect to each of the substances, the others, although prohibited in their own right, are capable of nullifying that substance. (This is a complex topic; see the Gemara and commentaries for additional detail and explanation.)

Avrohom’s Lomdishe Argument

Now, let us apply this principle to our question on the Medrash. Originally Avrohom asked if there were actual righteous people among the nation, meaning “righteous” in the classic sense of overall merits outnumbering overall transgressions. Told that there were not – “the many perform evil design” – Avrohom responded, “You should have focused on the righteous among them”, meaning that Hashem should have applied the mechanism of “transgression cancellation”. Although each of them were guilty of several categories of transgression, they were “righteous” with respect to the categories of transgression that they were did not violate, in comparison to the “un-righteous” others who did violate those transgressions. The transgressions of person A are not the transgressions of person B, etc.

This answers our question on the Medrash. Avrohom was not asking the same question twice. Having been told that considering all the mitzvos in aggregate the nation had more transgressions than merits, Avrohom contended that a favorable judgement should nevertheless have emerged, using Rabbi Moscato’s “mitzva-centric” understanding of judgement based on the conduct of the majority.

To this Hashem responded, “Their many were bad…”, meaning that prohibitions do not “cancel each other out”. Only the sum total of transgressions versus merits is significant. There is no “transgression cancellation”. And on that basis the destruction of the Bais HaMikdash and the exile were deserved.

Pesach: The Refutation of the Argument

Now let us return to the original Medrash’s equation of the “bitterness” of the marror on Pesach with the “bitterness” suffered on Tisha B’Av. We do so via the continuation of the previously cited Gemara in Zevachim, which states that the previously cited rule that eating a mixture of prohibited foods is exempt from penalty, where each prohibited food is a minority of the total mixture, is counter to the opinion of Rabbi Elazar, who holds that just as mitzvos cannot nullify one another, so too can forbidden items not nullify one another.

How does Rabbi Elazar know that mitzvos cannot nullify one another? The Gemara states that the origin of the counter-view that mitzvos cannot nullify one another is a practice of Hillel, who would sandwich matzo and marror together and eat them together with the korban Pesach, in keeping with the posuk (Bamidbar 9:11), “they shall eat it with matzo and marror”.

Hillel’s actions presume that mitzvos cannot nullify one another. The Torah commands that we eat both matzo and marror on the night of Pesach. They are separate mitzvos. The suggestion that they be eaten together implies that one cannot nullify the other. We do not say that if there is more matzo, for example, the marror is nullified (and therefore the marror mitzva has not been fulfilled). Hillel’s advice does not take nullification into account and therefore he must hold that it is not a factor. By eating matzo and marror together both mitzvos are fulfilled, Hillel holds, and therefore it must be that he holds that mitzvos cannot nullify one another.

It stands to reason that Hillel holds that the same logic applies to transgressions, and that one transgression cannot nullify others, since there is no reason to distinguish between positive mitzvos and transgressions in this regard. Just as the mitzvos of matzo and marror each remain intact when they are eaten together, and we discount nullification, so also if a person eats multiple forbidden foods together, each food remains intact and nullification must be discounted as a factor. Therefore, Rabbi Elazar states, Hillel must hold, contrary to the original statement of the Gemara in Zevachim 78a, that if a person eats a mixture of pigul, nosar and tamei together, he is not “off the hook” but must suffer the penalties of all three.

(The Shev Shmaitso apparently holds that the view of Rabbi Yehuda Moscato does not align with the view of Hillel, which is normative halacha, and thus would not have a practical application.)

Hillel’s Korech is the Answer

The connection between the bitter marror of Pesach and the bitterness of Tisha B’Av now becomes clear. As Hashem told Avrohom, “Their many were bad” and transgressions do not “cancel each other out”.

The fact that we fulfill the mitzva of marror even when it is eaten with matzo is a signal that mitzvos do not nullify one another, and therefore by extension, and contrary to Rabbi Moscato’s approach to judgement based on majority, transgressions do not nullify one another. And therefore, since without that leniency, judgement based on majority means the more stringent approach of tallying the sum of mitzvos versus the sum of transgressions and applying reward or penalty to the nation based on whichever is greater. And since, unfortunately, the sum of the transgressions was greater, at the time of the Bais HaMikdash’s destruction, the harsh penalties of destruction and exile were imposed.

This is the full and profound meaning of the Medrash which draws a parallel between the bitterness of the marror on the first night of Pesach and the bitterness the destruction and exile of Tisha B’Av. “With what he filled me with bitterness on the nights of Pesach, per the posuk, ‘They shall eat it with matzo and marror’, he sated me with wormwood on the nights of Tisha B’Av”.

May we merit the final redemption and an end to the bitterness of our galus, quickly and in our days!

Wednesday, March 26, 2025

In Memory of Reb Yankel Montag, zt’l: A Beacon of Quiet Benevolence

 

In Memory of Reb Yankel Montag, zt’l: A Beacon of Quiet Benevolence

A Life of Humble Service and Generosity

Reb Yankel Montag, a man known for his modesty and quiet benevolence, was niftar last week at the age of 75. Reb Yankel, the esteemed owner and operator of a substantial electrical supply company, leaves behind a legacy defined not just by his business acumen, but by the profound impact of his selfless acts of generosity and support.

A Successful Businessman

Reb Yankel ran a thriving electrical supply company, which he built from the ground up through hard work and dedication. His entrepreneurial spirit and keen business sense allowed him to create a prosperous enterprise that served countless customers with integrity and excellence. Yet, behind the façade of a successful businessman, and his many professional achievements, Reb Yankel remained grounded and true to his Torah values and his humble nature.

Unseen Acts of Kindness

Reb Yankel Montag's true passion lay in his quiet acts of kindness and his unwavering commitment to helping those in need. He was a man who never sought recognition or accolades for his deeds; instead, he found joy in the simple act of giving. His financial support extended far and wide, reaching individuals and families who found themselves in difficult circumstances. Whether it was to help pay a medical bill, finance a wedding, cover educational expenses, or provide for basic necessities, Reb Yankel was always there, offering a helping hand and a compassionate heart, with no fanfare.

A Pillar of Support

Reb Yankel’s generosity was not limited to financial aid. He was also a source of moral support and guidance for those who needed it most. There are countless stories of Reb Yankel stepping up the plate to assist families who lost everything in a fire or other catastrophe with financial support, moral support and even hands-on construction support.

His wisdom and empathy made him a trusted confidant and mentor to many. Reb Yankel believed in the power of encouragement and often provided solace to those facing life's challenges. His ability to listen and offer sound advice was a testament to his deep understanding of the neshama of a Yid.

Championing Education and Community

Reb Yankel Montag's benevolence extended beyond individuals to educational, religious and civic organizations. As a licensed contractor, he used his skills and expertise to provide hands-on assistance to Yeshivos, Batei Knesset and Batei Medrash. He financed projects, offered advice, and personally contributed to the maintenance and improvement of these institutions. Reb Yankel understood the importance of education and community, and he dedicated himself to ensuring that these pillars of society thrived. Among the many beneficiaries of his largesse were Yeshiva Rabbi Chaim Berlin, Camp Morris, Yeshiva of Brooklyn, Khal Veretzky, Yeshiva Novaminsk, Yeshiva Torah Temimah and numerous others.

He was personally involved in the building and renovation of these and other mosdos, bringing to bear not only financial assistance but also practical architectural and building advice – Reb Yankel was a licensed contractor and got his parnoso start in that field. And, as told to me by Rav Shlomo Mandel, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva of Brooklyn, Reb Yankel wasn’t above getting hands-on with the construction, the shlepping, the waste removal and other tasks that are usually relegated to the hired help. He viewed the construction as a mitzva and as such, mitzva bo yoser mi’bi’shelucho.

Reb Yankel also participated on a “lay leadership” level with the mosdos that were nearest and dearest to his heart, including Yeshiva Rabbi Chaim Berlin, Camp Morris and Yeshiva of Brooklyn, among others.

A Legacy of Quiet Service

In a world where many seek recognition for their charitable acts, Reb Yankel Montag strove to avoid the limelight. His contributions were often made anonymously, with no expectation of gratitude or praise. Those who knew him were aware, usually through others, of some of his countless acts of kindness, but Reb Yankel rarely spoke of them. He believed that true tzdoko was not about acknowledgment but about the genuine desire to make a difference and to do the rotzon Hashem.

A True Eved Hashem

For many years I was privileged to daven one table away from Reb Yankel, whose ruchniesdike home base was Yeshiva Rabbi Chaim Berlin. Watching him daven was a shiur in avodas Hashem. In keeping with his mehalech of hatzneah leches, he did not engage in vocal or body language histrionics, but his demeanor – the look of concentration on his face, his unwavering focus on the siddur in front of him, the care he invested in clearly pronouncing every word with kavana – was constant. His absorption in his learning was on the same level.

If you wanted to chap a shmooze with Reb Yankel you had to wait until the final Amen of the final Kaddish, or until he closed his Gemara.

Vignettes of Chesed

To bring the gadlus of Reb Yankel home in more than just an abstract sense we present several of many, many stories that emerged as people came forward after his petira to discuss how they, personally, were beneficiaries of his benevolence.

·       A yunger man was having parnoso difficulties after leaving kollel; nothing he tried seemed to work out. He decided to get his feet wet in real estate, going door to door, asking people if they wanted, perhaps, to sell their house. Finally he hit upon what he thought was a good deal, but the asking price was much more than he could afford. So he consulted Reb Yankel. Reb Yankel taught him the ropes of real estate investment, gave him confidence and loaned him the entire sum necessary to make the purchase. This yunger man became successful and he attributes his success to Reb Yankel.

·       Reb Yankel’s involvement in kiruv was not well-known but it was yet another facet of his chesed. There is now a wonderful, frum family whose mother, the daughter of a non-Jewish man and a Jewish woman, become frum as a result of Reb Yankel’s tireless efforts over many years.

·       A homeowner was scammed, and as a result his house went into foreclosure. Reb Yankel bought the house and allowed the owner to live there for the remainder of his life.

·       In the depression of the late 1990’s several Yeshivos had problems making payroll, and Reb Yankel laid out the funds so that the Rebbeim and staff could be paid on time.

·       During that same tekufa other Yeshivos were not always able to cover their checks on time and some of their Rebbeim got into the habit of exchanging their Yeshiva checks with Reb Yankel’s personal check so that they wouldn’t have to worry about having to delay depositing their funds.

·       Reb Yankel heard when my wife and I were about to buy our first home and he reminded me that we had to have the house inspected before we closed. When he saw my blank stare he told me not to worry, he would take care of it. He personally inspected the house and gave us a detailed report of what needed to be taken care of before we signed our contract.

·       Reb Yankel’s son Yisroel told me that when he was a camper at Camp Morris, Reb Yankel, who had a summer home there, would ask him to bring him some of the Camp cholent before Shabbos. He said, “but Abba, we have our own cholent!” And his father told him, “I’m not interested in eating the cholent, but, as one of the baalei batim helping to run the camp, I have to make sure that the food we serve our bochrim is of the highest quality!”

Remembering Reb Yankel Montag

As we remember Reb Yankel Montag, we celebrate a life lived with purpose and compassion. His legacy is etched in the hearts of those he touched, a testament to the power of quiet benevolence. Though he is now in the olam ha’emes, his spirit of generosity and humility will continue to inspire and guide us.

Reb Yankel Montag is survived by his beloved family; his wife, children and grandchildren, all of whom are following in his ways. He also leaves behind a community that is forever grateful for his myriad acts of chesed. His petira leaves a void that can never be filled, but his memory will live on in the countless lives he changed through his selfless acts of compassion, and in the mosdos that he contributed to. May he be a mailitz yosher for his family and for the tzibur.

When we reflect on the life of Reb Yankel Montag, we are reminded of the profound impact one individual can have on his tzibur, and on the world. His life serves as a shining example of how we can all strive to be better, kinder, more modest, more generous – and better ovdai Hashem.

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